I know, I know. I have absolutely no business talking about marriage because I've never been close to being there. Perhaps one of the biggest reasons why is because I take it very seriously. It's a life-long commitment. And it pains me that marriage these days has become so disposable.
While it may be easy to switch phone companies when your current one isn't meeting your needs, the same shouldn't be said for your spouses. If I'm not mistaken, you said " 'til death do us part." Not " 'til something better comes along."
I have so many friends who've recently divorced not of their own choice. It's painful to watch them go through that process, because it wasn't what they wanted. But they had spouses who thought their life would magically improve if they were unmarried.
After all, those "Sex and the City" chicks have glamorous lives, and they're single. So suddenly being single means that you'll have a glamorous life, right?
Yeah, not so much. And those girls didn't kick out husbands in order to sip on cosmos.
Marriage is a commitment, people. But it ain't always easy. I have a lot of respect for people like my aunt Kathy, who's been married to my uncle Paul for 37 years. And yeah, he's awesome most of the time, but if she wasn't the person that she is, she'd have probably left him a long time ago to travel the world looking for garage sales and eBay treasures.
But instead, she's honored her commitment because she loves him and she realizes that you have good times and bad times and sometimes you have to compromise to be a Mrs.
Since marriage is on the downhill slide, I'm wondering if we're going to start trading in our children next. "Junior, I'm kicking you out of your room for that boy down the street. He's better at sports."
A friend of mine once told me, "No one ever tells you when you get married that some days you'll wake up, look at your husband beside you, and think, 'I can't stand you.' " But she does stand him. She's still married to him.
So kudos to all of you men and women who are honoring your vows. Half of America can't do it. I respect those of you who choose each day to love your spouse, even if there is someone out there who's better looking, richer, or appreciates you more.
Here's to marriage, that grand institution.
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Beautifully written and so, so true. I assure you from those I've seen go through it because they thought they were getting a "better deal," the grass is NEVER greener. The next dude she marries is still a dude. A very human dude.
While I probably do it wrong more often than right, I'm in it for the long haul (sorry, Lon), and I know someday, 20+ years down the road, our boys WILL appreciate us as much as we do our parents.
AND, life's not SUPPOSE to be easy! It's about sacrifice! And honor! And promises! (You've opened a can here, sorry...)
Jen just stays with me for the HOT SEX!
I asked for a "Notre Dame" clause in my marriage contract but we just settled for the "Ross" deal.
If Jen ever has a chance to sleep with Gene Simmons or Matthew McConaughey, she is free to go for it, and if after 10 to 15 more years, if I can still "get it up" I am free to sleep with whom ever I choose. (Because Jen knows I am useless after then) I'll be wearing butterfly collars, gold chains, and black socks with my sandals.
I am funny, no matter what you and Jen think, and you better not block me from posting on your blog.
My post is just as heartfelt as Jens.
Um, yeah... like I'M the one who said "if I ever get a chance to sleep with Gene Simmons, it's free."
Yeah, that was totally me and not Lonnie.
This is Scott. (Shannon made me write that!) but, lonnie, you are waaayyyy hotter than Matthew M.
I've got your back buddy!
And, Lori - you are right. If Shannon can put up with me and the multiple personalities that come along with me now.....anyone can keep that vow. very well said.
And, Jen - you are awesome. Enough said. Poor girl.
Thank Lori. At last you wrote something about me that is not making fun of my green moo-moo. I love ya. Memaw
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